I know it may feel like an extra step when all of us are so very touch-focused, but the very simplest thing you can do is ask him every single time. Or simply hold your hand out and wait to see if he decides to take it.
Giving Hunter the power to choose and the time to prepare himself is the kindest thing you can give him. And then it may be all the more obvious if he begins reaching out for you instead.
Then you have nothing to worry about, love. Just keep asking, every single time. I will continue to do the same, then he'll never feel too startled with either of us.
Which will only make it easier as he continues to make more friends.
[Bless his clueless heart, he has no idea why this relationship makes him extra anxious, but he trusts Rue's advice and instincts on this, so his tone is able to settle a little bit as their words sink in.]
Thank you for listening. -And for everything else.
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May I offer a suggestion, little cub?
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[He regrets so much.]
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Giving Hunter the power to choose and the time to prepare himself is the kindest thing you can give him. And then it may be all the more obvious if he begins reaching out for you instead.
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[He'll just have to get better about it. Yes. He'll get much better at it. That's the new goal. Be the best ever at Hunter hugs.]
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Which will only make it easier as he continues to make more friends.
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[Bless his clueless heart, he has no idea why this relationship makes him extra anxious, but he trusts Rue's advice and instincts on this, so his tone is able to settle a little bit as their words sink in.]
Thank you for listening. -And for everything else.
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[Nothing and no one matters as much as their kids.]
Is there anything else on your mind? Any other minor fires I can put out?
[Little tease.]
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[The tease works like a charm, getting him flustered, though not enough for him to seek an escape. He kind of deserved that.]
...Can I come over tomorrow? After school?
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But didn't later in the week work better for you? Are you certain everything is well?
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[In fairness he doesn't sound like he's lying. And he is a very bad liar.]
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Then I'd be so happy to see you! You will likely be hungry after your long day of learning, so I will have an after school snack waiting for you. :)
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[Maybe some new cocoa mix or spices from the residential area around the school...]
Thanks, Mom. See you tomorrow.
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[a special gift and a visit!! rue could not be happier]